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PAST MOTIVATIONS

In order to answer this question we have to question why we grumble in the first place. Let’s look at some possible reasons.

We are short-sighted. We view circumstances with a temporal view only. Let's face it, don't you and I often react before we have looked at all the options?

We feel cheated (we feel we are not getting what we deserved). We feel that people should drop everything so they can attend to our needs. We feel that we deserve more respect, more support, more consideration than we are getting. But we must ask, why do we feel this way? Who says that we "deserve" these things.

We are faithless or spiritually lost. No one is more unhappy than the person who views life as hopeless.

We are lazy. Some things in life take hard work. People who are lazy would rather complain than dig in. We don't want to work hard at relationships . . . it's easier to complain. We don't want to be accountable to authority . . . so we complain. We don't want to adjust our desires . . . so we complain.

What causes you to complain and argue?

HOW TO OVERCOME GRUMBLING
Once we understand why we grumble, the next job is to address how to overcome this kind of behavior. What do we need to do to stop grumbling and complaining.

* We're hungry, but not starving

* We're going through a difficult time, but life is not really horrible

* We're having a bad day but it really isn't a crisis

* The good old days we long for really weren't all that different from the present

* Bad things don't always happen to you . . .they happen to others too

* Bad things don't always happen to you . . .a number of good and pleasant things come too

* You may feel like you never win anything, but in truth you have been given lots of great things you really don't deserve.

* You aren't the only one to struggle. Even people who have a life that seems easier or better than yours have their struggles too. In fact, they may not be much different that yours. You aren't as "unique" as you think.

Do you get the idea? If we tell ourselves the truth, if we look at our situation realistically, our perspective will change and our complaining will lessen.

- Author Unknown

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